Hi All, the trip to Charleston was
great. Lots of good information and
connections...very powerful
networking. I was delighted that
Antoinette was there, too, and have a
chance to get to know this marvelous Dame
and her delightful husband a bit
better. Hence, a copy of this email
to her in the hope that she will respond
to the group with her view of the
conference. We have different
backgrounds, and similar broad interests,
so we will have taken away different
viewpoints.....good to share all, I think.
Here are some of my observations, arranged
roughly in chronological order. I am
sure I will think of more as soon as I send
this note. In any event, more will
follow.
1. As we were driving from Meridian MS
to Charleston SC, I mentioned to Bill that I
expected to be something of a 'curiosity' at
this conference...as 'Alma's daughter.'
Indeed that was the case. Right away, at
the opening reception, any time I moved around
someone rushed off to get me a glass of wine
while others took my photograph with various
Dames. I worked hard to stay sober and
there were many glasses of wine that I left
behind (oh, but they were so good). I
have no idea what will happen to the various
photos. I don't really like this sort of
thing very much so thank goodness it settled
down after about a day, when folks came to
talk to me, instead (I guess maybe they were
sensitive...).
2. One of the first activities for
Presidents (co) was to get to know your call-in
LDEI leader. In our case, Deborah, from
New York City. Ricky and I already had one
conference call with the group and another is,
as you know, scheduled in the near future (by
the way, Deborah did not initially have Ricky's
name, but she does now; I sent it to her with a
request to send to Ricky and also followed up
with Greg...for the nth time--I think it will
stick with Deborah). So, the group of all
Presidents broke up into smaller groups,
There were about eight of us who met with
Deborah...I really like her...she is smart and
logical and kind...listens and addresses what
was said/asked instead of promoting her own
agenda off your question/comment. All
great attributes for someone in her position, I
think. I really didn't have too much to
say about our group other than to indicate what
we had done and to say that the group seemed
enthusiastic and interested in working together
in constructive ways. Now, I would have
thought that that would be the case with most
Chapters...I mean, why not! However, the
most vocal women were the ones who were
complaining about attitude problems in their
chapter...cat fights and other unsavory
activities. I mean, I understand that for
women to get in positions of leadership in most
professions, it often works well to create one's
own small business or other institutional
structure. Given that, then it is a
natural consequence that the leaders become
accustomed to doing things on their own schedule
rather than on someone else's. But, I
should have thought that that observation is
hardly original with me....that they should all
know that and therefore be interested in being
flexible and working with, rather than against,
each other. Apparently that is not the
case everywhere. So, that is an important
and wonderful feature that we have in our favor
and one that clearly merits praise in order to
reinforce its continuation.
3. I found the grazing meal functions to be
superior to the sit down plated meal
functions. Most, but not all, that I talked
to found the same. I ate at meals with many
from the Chicago chapter. Nathalie Dupree
came over and sought me out to eat lunch with
me...interesting woman...I gave her my email and
she may stay in touch.